Infidelity is a very grave topic. Grave because people get
indulge with each other, when asked they deny and gradually it’s lost in time. Personally,
I find it obtuse.
Infidelity is nothing new, its age old with roots dug deep
in history. Be it poor, middle class or rich everyone have had their own share.
The kings, the lords and the elite rich class had the pleasure to marry
multiple times, even after that have multiple affairs. These days politicians,
celebrities and even commoners have mistresses. All of it is kept under the
carpet.
In India, if any news hit the headlines involving a big shot
with someone, their public image is never hampered. People browse through it,
read it in the page 3 section, gossip and then forget it. But when foreign
media bags upon such news, even the public image comes to a jeopardy. It is
compromised. Their personal life do make an impact and damage their reputation. Just to name a few, who can forget Bill Clinton’s, Tiger Wood's affair and the media outburst?
Attraction
Well, attraction is a well-known fact. One can
we attracted or simply like some person they meet. Sometimes the wave length does
match. Attraction is not only in terms of physical presence, but mainly a
mental maths. Though I agree attraction is a strong driving force, it’s very
natural and human. To make it fatal is always in our hands. Always remember,
the person who has been with you in thick and thin, who has been your partner
in crime, given his/her time unconditionally is the one who you always have to
go back to. Your relationship with your partner has survived tests of time, don’t
let it go in a jiffy.
More time @ work
Time spend with colleagues is more than
time spend with spouse. As both partners are working, they get less time in
weekdays at disposal and weekends just fly. More interaction and closeness @
work is also a major reason for high infidelity rate. How often we hear two
actors getting involved during a shoot. Office flings are also very common.
Newness in life
As people grow in age they find newness and
comfort in the company of someone young. Youth has its own charm and age is
dipped in maturity. The both of them find solace in each other. New company,
new talks, a new feel of touch (as if its their first) rules the mind.
Troubled relationships
Troubled relationships are a major
excuse to opt for infidelity. Husband/wife do not want to recoup the
relationship, maybe a lot has gone wrong already. They look for alternate
emotional and physical support. It is possible to have feelings for more than
one person at a time. Pragmatically, it’s not possible to love two people at a
time. So if someone is cheating their partner, surely love is lost between the
two.
Pleasure
It can even be a simple drive to have more sexual
partners.
Many reasons incorporate the practice of infidelity. It can
be a weak moment in which a person gets carried away and then think what did
he/she did? It can even be strong bond. Though personally I don’t buy any of
the reasons. There is only one reason for two people to be together and that’s
love and hundreds to drift apart. Even temptations can be controlled. And, if
someone has a troubled relationship then do give it your best shot to make
things right. Don’t fall into the trap of options waiting at doorstep. Confront
and resolve. If all this doesn't work out then be strong to end it, then only
look for a companion when you are ready.
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