UDAAN

A much acclaimed movie. I recently got a chance to watch it, don’t really know how I had missed watching it earlier. With splendid acting, story line, it’s marked to perfection with a lot to think about. It’s not a movie review that I am writing. I just want to share how disturbed I got by the sole thought of it, ‘the negative shade of parents’. It gives me shudders.

How a strict disciplined father dominates the child. In the most developing years of life where a child learns and imbibes, he has a monster parent. In a claustrophobic life how he becomes all the more rebellious. The strictness of his dad is to the extent that he cannot call him dad, has to refer to him as SIR. There is no warmth in the father and son relationship. His attitude to control, worship discipline and to get regard overpowers his love and care for the child. It highlights the mental turmoil and the slow growing hatred of the child for his father. His obnoxious behavior to get regard from his kid keeps haunting him. He doesn’t understand a simple fact that one cannot forcefully get regard, but has to earn one. With times as children grow parents have to change with them, they cannot carry forward their age old concepts.

After watching the movie, I called up my father and discussed it with him. He described it in such a brilliant way. I’ll like to quote him. ‘Parents and children relationship is like a tree. Kids get their strength from parents when they are in their growing age. They imbibe and constantly learn spoken as well as unspoken things. Parents nourish their children. When parents say, ‘we are with you, just don’t worry.’ It gives power to the kids; they can win the world with such a support. Parents love, care and guidance is like a nutrition that helps in the growth of the kids. For every tree to stand tall and high the roots should be strong and laid down with precision, only then the tree will sustain all kinds of seasons. New branches, new leaves, flowers and fruits all depends on the foundation. A tree can only give shelter when it’s loaded with green leaves, only gives pleasure when laden with fruits and flowers. Life is like a vicious circle, if the roots are not strong, i.e. parents have no role in the development of their kids then when parents grow old even the leaves and branches, i.e. the kids cannot provide shelter and warmth. When kids grow up with a good foundation that is laid down in their childhood, they say, ‘we are with you just don’t worry.’ The beauty of the tree lies in the fact that how nourished it is. Also, it’s the responsibility of the trunk and the roots to give nourishment to the entire leaves, branches, flowers and fruits for the development. It just cannot afford to be attached to single leaf and think to only take care of it, if it happens it is the cause of destruction and the death for the entire tree. ’

How so very well put in simple words. I love having such sessions with my dad. He has the apt example to quote always.

I just loved the end of the movie or the beginning of a new journey, where the kid with his younger stepbrother just takes a fleet, a UDAAN, from the clutches of his rude father. It took a lot of time and events for him to reach the threshold of tolerance and sets himself free.  

So in the end I would like to say everything boils down to the fact that how strong are your roots!

Happy parenting! :)

Stay blessed and keep flourishing.