Well, some time back I stumbled on a Radio conversation that made me laugh and provoked a thought at the same time. A program on air where they receive letters from people seeking opinion from anchors. One incident during the show amused me. Cannot quote word to word but would like to share the crux.
It was from a woman who didn't want to disclose her real name for obvious reasons. She was married and described her husband as a responsible family man. A quality that is generally considered good. But she wanted more. She was having an extra marital affair with two other guys! It gathered my attention like a reflex action if someone pinched you. All three guys were in dark of anyone else's presence. To her advantage her husband travels a lot for work, she could eavesdrop easily with perfection. She loved all three! All of them had distinctive qualities that amazed her. One was good in bed, other one was a real charmer with talks and wits and her husband was the most responsible one cared for her like a baby. She liked the situation she was in but also felt guilty sometimes. She asked the RJ if it is wrong not to disclose. Her counter for her own webbed why-to-feel-guilty was based on the argument of how men have ill-treated women since ages, abused, used and disrespected them. Now given a chance why should she feel guilty for anything. In short the call was to get a confirmation from people in words and gestures for the marvellous job she has done! Bravo!
My first reaction was a laughter riot! A creepy sick mindset was oozing out of the radio. Mindset where one believes-
Hiding one's mistakes on the name of women rights is justified as it is a time for women empowerment?
The typical case where one assumes that they are ambassadors of a cause, in all wrong ways!
A feeling of revenge-is-justified can be sensed. Where in it is my time to give-it-back!
My simple question to women with such lame attitude is-
'What makes you different from a rapist who thinks it is his right to do so, as for ages men have ruled the planet, and he as a mascot will dominate women to show them their actual place.'
Courtesy to such women like you, talks of women empowerment and women liberalization seem so offsetting, off tune!
If it is your choice to be a chauvinist, to have sex with multiple men then don't outcry it as 'giving-it-back'. No matter how forward or new era women you are, it will definitely pinch you too to discover a situation where you are one of the three women in your husband's life! So hiding behind a cloak accusing the other gender is not what we want or should want! Drifting away, being an escapist doesn't help!
My readers can also click here to read my earlier blog on similar lines. I emphasise that if you claim to an independent women, then be so with a head high. Do not have double standards thinking everything you do is right!
So my fellow ladies be clear on what you want. If you like pleasure through sex, then be proud to say so without any hidden agenda or getting into a failed marriage which might hurt someone. If you claim to be independent, then the true meaning also means to be fair to your husbands and brothers. Let love find its way rather than gender do's and dont's. If you are a protected girl who needs support of husband, father and brother then be clear as well. Please don't apply few logics according to your convenience and call it women empowerment. A custom-fit-approach is just a blinder sometimes to ignore few aspects you willingly want to miss.
You are everything you want to be, just make the right choices! Please stop being a hypocrite and make a joke of other fellow ladies who genuinely strive hard in what they truly believe. Thumb Rule - If your convenience is someone else pain, it is't worth it nor it is liberalization and that is gender agnostic.
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