Childhood is a very nascent stage where development of child is utmost. How secure the child feels, equality between siblings and what he/she feels about themselves is important. Parents love their children. That is said without any doubt. But there is surely a tag a child carries in the eyes of their parents. Like 'the intelligent one', 'the creative one', 'the sporty one', 'the naughty one', 'the quite one' so on and so forth. It is a general categorization parents form for their children.
Think and analyse-
How many times has it happened that you buy pretty pretty things for your girl child and your baby boy is just looking your face. Mothers get carried away especially seeing cute stuff for their daughters, every mom wants their daughters to look beautiful. If he retaliates for some toy, he is not given as he is asking for it. Logic says, if you fulfil demands of child then there are chances he will be spoiled. Baby girl is so innocent, she doesn't demand. Any child physiologist or a third person can analyse this situation very well rather than parents sometimes. It is a simple thing, she doesn't have to retaliate as she gets everything without even asking, but on the other hand the boy has to fight hard for it. Gradually parents think he is 'the aggressive one' and unfortunately this tag is for lifetime. As kids grow, the girl child becomes the 'mature one' who can never be wrong. This is the time when difference between siblings grow as the guy knows that there is no point explaining anything to parents. It will go unanswered and ignored. A child though small in age understands and knows everything. He has his own mind which parents forgo to understand.
The involvement of parents. This is equally important. For instant, if a teenager has to write some exam just because he is a boy will his parents not drive him to the test centre? Just a daughter has to be taken more care?
In India, it is so common parents visiting their daughters often when they start working or are pursuing some professional courses. Same parents do not visit their son as he can manage everything on his own (he is a big boy!). Same parents are so desperate to go and visit the son as soon as he is married! Why such double standards? It is very important to understand which parent is playing what role, either they divide duties or take it together. Such insane logics thinking a girl needs more support in their development age or for a fact through a lifetime than a guy is rubbish. Why such unaccounted ethics? Here, the girl child becomes 'the protected one'. I being a girl can proudly say, I am independent and strong. Like a son, I do not want undue unconditional support just because of my gender!
Do you recall putting restrictions for girl child?
'You are supposed to be home until 7pm!'
On the other hand, the boy child since he is a guy is allowed more relaxation? Why?
'You are a guy, you have to take care of parents and your sister, doesn't matter younger or elder.'
I find this to be so conservative and stupid! In which age are we living? Everyone is independent these days. Why force things on a guy? Siblings should help and support each other irrespective of gender and age. As a matter of fact parents responsibility is not only for the guy, it is a shared responsibility irrespective of gender. Keep it simple folks. Parents complicate things so much! They unknowingly distort thinking of child saying such figurative things repeatedly. Why being a guy carries more responsibility and girl is an epitome of grabbing support?
We have to give more financial support to our daughter than our son (he is independent). Parents please understand if you are willing to give financial support it should be equal for both. How does just being a daughter makes one more legitimate to get more gold, cash, better wedding and long lasting financial support from parents and even their brothers? Funny part is in some families being a guy makes one accountable to manage all his wedding expenses. In such families if guy is unable to do so, parents curse and taunt their son as if he has committed a heinous crime! But daughter/sister wedding will be a collaboration of arrangements made by parents and brothers happily. Are girls so weak? I am also a girl and cannot imagine any parent thinking on same lines, but the crux is many do. It is an engraved mindset which needs to change.
It is shocking to know that suicide rates for men are much higher than women! Sometimes midst of women liberalisation world man becomes the forgotten gender. The major reason inferred is the financial burden created by the norms of the society still trapped in the old conservative circuit. Also, another reason is the misuse of laws that support women especially dowry cases used as a tool to dampen reputation of a guy. Third reason is farmers in India due to unpredictable climate.
Source- Wikipedia
Think and analyse-
How many times has it happened that you buy pretty pretty things for your girl child and your baby boy is just looking your face. Mothers get carried away especially seeing cute stuff for their daughters, every mom wants their daughters to look beautiful. If he retaliates for some toy, he is not given as he is asking for it. Logic says, if you fulfil demands of child then there are chances he will be spoiled. Baby girl is so innocent, she doesn't demand. Any child physiologist or a third person can analyse this situation very well rather than parents sometimes. It is a simple thing, she doesn't have to retaliate as she gets everything without even asking, but on the other hand the boy has to fight hard for it. Gradually parents think he is 'the aggressive one' and unfortunately this tag is for lifetime. As kids grow, the girl child becomes the 'mature one' who can never be wrong. This is the time when difference between siblings grow as the guy knows that there is no point explaining anything to parents. It will go unanswered and ignored. A child though small in age understands and knows everything. He has his own mind which parents forgo to understand.
The involvement of parents. This is equally important. For instant, if a teenager has to write some exam just because he is a boy will his parents not drive him to the test centre? Just a daughter has to be taken more care?
In India, it is so common parents visiting their daughters often when they start working or are pursuing some professional courses. Same parents do not visit their son as he can manage everything on his own (he is a big boy!). Same parents are so desperate to go and visit the son as soon as he is married! Why such double standards? It is very important to understand which parent is playing what role, either they divide duties or take it together. Such insane logics thinking a girl needs more support in their development age or for a fact through a lifetime than a guy is rubbish. Why such unaccounted ethics? Here, the girl child becomes 'the protected one'. I being a girl can proudly say, I am independent and strong. Like a son, I do not want undue unconditional support just because of my gender!
Do you recall putting restrictions for girl child?
'You are supposed to be home until 7pm!'
On the other hand, the boy child since he is a guy is allowed more relaxation? Why?
'You are a guy, you have to take care of parents and your sister, doesn't matter younger or elder.'
I find this to be so conservative and stupid! In which age are we living? Everyone is independent these days. Why force things on a guy? Siblings should help and support each other irrespective of gender and age. As a matter of fact parents responsibility is not only for the guy, it is a shared responsibility irrespective of gender. Keep it simple folks. Parents complicate things so much! They unknowingly distort thinking of child saying such figurative things repeatedly. Why being a guy carries more responsibility and girl is an epitome of grabbing support?
We have to give more financial support to our daughter than our son (he is independent). Parents please understand if you are willing to give financial support it should be equal for both. How does just being a daughter makes one more legitimate to get more gold, cash, better wedding and long lasting financial support from parents and even their brothers? Funny part is in some families being a guy makes one accountable to manage all his wedding expenses. In such families if guy is unable to do so, parents curse and taunt their son as if he has committed a heinous crime! But daughter/sister wedding will be a collaboration of arrangements made by parents and brothers happily. Are girls so weak? I am also a girl and cannot imagine any parent thinking on same lines, but the crux is many do. It is an engraved mindset which needs to change.
It is shocking to know that suicide rates for men are much higher than women! Sometimes midst of women liberalisation world man becomes the forgotten gender. The major reason inferred is the financial burden created by the norms of the society still trapped in the old conservative circuit. Also, another reason is the misuse of laws that support women especially dowry cases used as a tool to dampen reputation of a guy. Third reason is farmers in India due to unpredictable climate.
| Rank | Country | Males | Females | Total | Year |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 |  Lithuania | 52.5 | 7.9 | 28.6 | 2009 |
| 2 |  Republic of Korea | 35.6 | 18.5 | 26.3 | 2009 |
| 3 |  Belarus | 43.0 | 7.7 | 24.0 | 2009 |
| 4 |  Kazakhstan | 40.4 | 8.4 | 23.5 | 2009 |
| 5 |  Russia | 41.3 | 6.9 | 22.8 | 2009 |
| 6 |  Japan | 28.3 | 10.1 | 19.1 | 2009 |
| 7 |  Hungary | 32.1 | 7.6 | 19.0 | 2009 |
| 8 |  Latvia | 33.5 | 5.7 | 18.6 | 2009 |
| 9 |  Ukraine | 32.2 | 5.2 | 17.6 | 2009 |
| 10 |  Finland | 25.4 | 8.9 | 17.1 | 2009 |
In India generally across all the states, the suicide ratio is 2:1 between male and female.
Source- Wikipedia
Are you a girl/woman with the tag 'the protected one'? Please don't be, step forward! We are far more than what our orthodox parents/society believe. We are responsible to share parents responsibility equally with our brothers. Just being a girl doesn't make us weak physically or emotionally. I have also seen closely how a young financially independent women think in context to their brothers. He is my brother, he has to do stuff for me! How lame! If you claim to be strong and independent, then be so. Let love be the reason to be with each other, supporting each other through thick and thin. Let's not genderize everything.
Are you a girl/woman with the tag 'the protected one'? Please don't be, step forward! We are far more than what our orthodox parents/society believe. We are responsible to share parents responsibility equally with our brothers. Just being a girl doesn't make us weak physically or emotionally. I have also seen closely how a young financially independent women think in context to their brothers. He is my brother, he has to do stuff for me! How lame! If you claim to be strong and independent, then be so. Let love be the reason to be with each other, supporting each other through thick and thin. Let's not genderize everything.
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