So often we use these lines-
To a girl-
'No wonder, a girl is driving.'
'She's not a fast runner since she is a girl.'
'She loves doll house more than football.'
'She loves pink over blue.'
'She doesn't have strength of a guy.'
To a guy-
'Don't be a cry baby, men don't cry.'
'How can you like romantic comedies? It's for girls.'
'Be a man.'
'Don't be clumsy like a girl.'
'He is stronger and faster.'
These are normal syllabi everyone uses. Not knowing how offensive it may sound though spoken willingly or unwillingly. These small statements spoken off and on, discriminates the genders. Such notions are the source of proving masculine power over feminine ones. This being the root cause of many racist mind sets and power game politics between the genders.
Here is an awesome video-
So very well conceptualised. Honestly, I believe there is nothing 'like a girl' that exists. Its all based on individual choices and ones characteristic.
'Like a guy' or 'like a girl' is just a thought. When a baby is born, he/she is alien to such concepts. As they grow, these ideas are cultivated by parents, teachers, friends, society. How often do we see parents planning pink colour on walls of a room for welcoming their girl child, stuffing more dolls and soft toys rather than cars. Even gifts by relatives are gender-ized. To a baby boy, we gift more of cars, GI-joes, etc. In fact, if a guy wears pink, its gayish as pink is for girls. Where is the rulebook that says it all, I never understood.
Being a girl, I never played with dolls or student teacher game most of the kids play. I was always with brothers playing out in sun. Though my sister loved to play with dolls, talking to them. She loved barbie doll kitchen set, draping a saree from a dupatta and scolding like a teacher. :)
Few of my choices since childhood, coined me with the phrase 'you are more of a guy'.
I loved to be loud when I laughed.
I have great strength in my arms (courtesy to my brothers with whom I enjoyed numerous arm wrestling matches and always was a strong contender)
I always wore a snap back, sometimes even turned the hat all the way round leaving snaps being visible on my forehead.
During winters in school, I always wore pants. Once my physical training teacher blasted me hard thinking I was a boy (I also had a boy cut, as they call it) standing in the girls line.
As a matter of fact, I love boxers more than skimpy pyjamas or shorts. :)
Well, that's me!. I choose to be like this. I am more comfortable being so.
It doest matter if you are a girl or a guy. The social discrimination must end some day and it starts with you and how our generation should bring up their children. Every person has its own personality, choices, likes/dislikes and beliefs. It's better to say, 'that's the way he/she is' rather than Gender-ize!
To a girl-
'No wonder, a girl is driving.'
'She's not a fast runner since she is a girl.'
'She loves doll house more than football.'
'She loves pink over blue.'
'She doesn't have strength of a guy.'
To a guy-
'Don't be a cry baby, men don't cry.'
'How can you like romantic comedies? It's for girls.'
'Be a man.'
'Don't be clumsy like a girl.'
'He is stronger and faster.'
These are normal syllabi everyone uses. Not knowing how offensive it may sound though spoken willingly or unwillingly. These small statements spoken off and on, discriminates the genders. Such notions are the source of proving masculine power over feminine ones. This being the root cause of many racist mind sets and power game politics between the genders.
Here is an awesome video-
So very well conceptualised. Honestly, I believe there is nothing 'like a girl' that exists. Its all based on individual choices and ones characteristic.
'Like a guy' or 'like a girl' is just a thought. When a baby is born, he/she is alien to such concepts. As they grow, these ideas are cultivated by parents, teachers, friends, society. How often do we see parents planning pink colour on walls of a room for welcoming their girl child, stuffing more dolls and soft toys rather than cars. Even gifts by relatives are gender-ized. To a baby boy, we gift more of cars, GI-joes, etc. In fact, if a guy wears pink, its gayish as pink is for girls. Where is the rulebook that says it all, I never understood.
Being a girl, I never played with dolls or student teacher game most of the kids play. I was always with brothers playing out in sun. Though my sister loved to play with dolls, talking to them. She loved barbie doll kitchen set, draping a saree from a dupatta and scolding like a teacher. :)
Few of my choices since childhood, coined me with the phrase 'you are more of a guy'.
I loved to be loud when I laughed.
I have great strength in my arms (courtesy to my brothers with whom I enjoyed numerous arm wrestling matches and always was a strong contender)
I always wore a snap back, sometimes even turned the hat all the way round leaving snaps being visible on my forehead.
During winters in school, I always wore pants. Once my physical training teacher blasted me hard thinking I was a boy (I also had a boy cut, as they call it) standing in the girls line.
As a matter of fact, I love boxers more than skimpy pyjamas or shorts. :)
Well, that's me!. I choose to be like this. I am more comfortable being so.
(Both of them can be comfy in each other's shoes.)
It doest matter if you are a girl or a guy. The social discrimination must end some day and it starts with you and how our generation should bring up their children. Every person has its own personality, choices, likes/dislikes and beliefs. It's better to say, 'that's the way he/she is' rather than Gender-ize!
0 comments: